Scenario:
One guy and one girl love each other. i dunno if madly deeply in love, but surely they care bout each other.
1) The guy love the girl, but the guy needs his freedom.
2) He want to hug her, kiss her, hold her by his side, but he's feel like flying solo.
3) He's a flirt, but he not approaching anybody cause he love her.
4) He want her but he have some doubt.
to make the situation worst, she carelessly say to let the guy enjoy his life while she's deeply hurting, BY HERSELF. the guy feel guilty (read: feeling like an asshole), but he's don't know what he should do. He love her, so much but he cannot make up his mind (read: he's got commitment - work). owh..they're both far far away from each other (read : distance). they hardly meet, hardly get connected (both face to face & virtual world). their age is one of their thousand problems. the guy know that if he lets time decide, the relationship going to drain.
Solution:
Would all of you mind to show the pathetic guy his way out from his problem? be harsh if that will help. and mind you, this is FUCKING SERIOUS BUSINESS. HE'S IN DEEP SHIT.
Me: waiting for your answer. pretty pretty please help him. :)
Wednesday, November 22, 2006
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saperkah die itu mangi? hehe wuts wif age? sorg tua n sorg mude ker ape? ker dedue da makin tua n have to settle down cpat2? hehe i think if they really love each other then it shudnt be any problem.. eh tapi cam x paham wuts the problem sebnarnye.. hehe
dia tu remain anonymous. secret is always stay as secret. age? quite a huge gap between them. let say 4 years gap. this guy love his partner, but too many obstacle that make their love possible. ok..maybe not love, but to make them live together, happily ever after is quite impossible. the guy can't make up his mind. he seems to be trapped in the middle of thousand confusion. he got another life to chase after with the girl but at the same time, he got other commitment (work). he want her to be by his side, but he feel like flying solo. in other term, he cannot make up his mind either to go with the girl or continue his current life. he love his current life, but at the same time, he love the girl also.
poor him.
just find the right time to break up!
hahaha. jgnlah camtu. kesian dia. he love her. damn. i wish i could help him. but also have no good idea to come out with.
huhu~ btol gak.. abeh kalo taley nak wat pape.. baek break up skang dari hold on to the relationship, but end up nanti cannot live together gak.. kan?
Assalamu'alaikum Dueng..
Aku rasa aku dapat bayangkan cane keadaan mamat tu skg ni. 50-50. Bak kata pepatah, telan mati emak, luah mati bapak. Coz aku dulu pun dah lalui bnde tu. Different story line.. but the same feelings. U know that better I guess.
Nak clash, rasa sayang. Nak teruskan, rasa burden plak + perempuan ni akan sentiasa terluka kalo ko teruskan that relationship. In a nutshell, u love her but u can't give the commitment. That's the summary of his story rasanya.
So, cadangan aku (seandainya dia sorg Muslim):
1) Cermin diri - check balik diri kite ni. Adakah kite jalankan tanggungjawab kite dgn elok? Tanggungjawab dgn Tuhan? Ibu bapa? Adik beradik? Kawan2? And so on and so forth.. kalo tanggungjawab2 tu dah terabai, cepat2 la betulkan dulu. Problem yg kite hadapi tu MUNGKIN satu cara utk Tuhan sedarkan kite psl tanggungjawab kite yg LAGI penting (obviously) yg mana kite dah lupa.. yg kite dah tolak ke tepi..
2) Doa byk2 and believe in God's power. We must always remember, and remind ourselves.. "jodoh pertemuan ni Tuhan tentukan". Kalo org tu dah dijanjikan utk kite, buatlah macam mana skali pun, berpisah la macam mana skali pun, PASTI akan bersatu jua akhirnya. Tapi, kalo die bukan utk kite, buatla macam mana skali pun, jaga la relationship tu mcm mana skali pun, breaking up is a foregone conclusion.
Aku tulis ni bukan la nak bersyarah agama. Aku pun xbyk ilmu agama. But I just wanta share a little bit of my past experiences that might be helpful.
Wassalam
P/S: Kalo ade kesempatan tu, buat la solat sunat istikharah (tambah2 dlm hal jodoh ni).. God works in mysterious ways.. and miracle does happen. Believe that!
waalaikumsalam
terima kasih bebyk bro. aku akan sampaikan pada dia. hopefully, dia akan ok. susah jgk berdepan dgn komplikated problem camni. aku tak rasa pun benda ni komplikated sgt, cuma bila emosi menguasai diri, susah sikit nak jadik rasional dalam membuat pertimbangan.
semoga jodoh 2 orang tu ada. aih...kesian sungguh aku tgk mamat tu. terkontang kanting memikirkan solution problem dia. thanks for the wise advice. :)
mangi,
do what most of us do normally.
either walk away for good, or remain at the same spot and figure any way to make up to everything.
he do wants his gf to be happy, so why in the hell he didnt do it in the first place?
she could done better by speaking out her mind. this action may clear tonnes of rubbles in his mind.
one thing abt dude-dudettes relationship is, we CAN NOT FOREVER EVER understands our beloved other half. because theres a gap for us to learn about responsibilities, trust, and give & take. so stop whining and learn it!
frankly, i know its not a simple ditch or do thing. but try to move on as fast as you can. things will gone better.
ps: my 2 cents. aku bukan bagi nasihat ni kat dueng heheh.
thanks for all your wise advice. it's help HIM alot. :) . let's pray for him to live happily ever after with her.
so..
in conclusion,
should he continue with her suggestion or should them break up?
i think she clearly said that, he can go and enjoy life while he can and she'll be waiting for him whenever he needs her and confirm about his feelings towards her.
..hurm...
Be a power hunger person:
TAKE CONTROL OF EVERYTHING!! BUAHAHAHAH!!
"Money isn't everything, but everything costs money..!!"
Even the so called "love", that is said cannot be bought by money, costs a hell lot of money!
Think about it..
Only then you will know which one has the highest priority.
Then you will know your purpose..
After it is decided, then focus on it 100%..
Assalamualaikom Mangi Bro! *hugs*
Hows u? Glad ur working & all :D
Okies. Love advice is so my item! *not really*
1) Age difference is nothing la. I dated someone nearly 15 years older than me. ok jer. as a matter of fact, we were so damn compatible.
2) They should talk about it. Sit down and talk about their commitments. The fact is if the guy isnt ready, then he is not ready. Guys are selfish la liddat, brah. Nothing new. For the girl, chill. Men have different priorities than women. We, women, just want to make babies and milk them with out chachas. hahahaha.
3) do it like this la brah: Let him work, and she goes on with her life- both remain friends. If theyre really meant to be together, Allah will give them that chance. Why worry too much about something you're not certain about, anyway? Mehh....
4) Semayang istikharah is the best method. Ask Allah straight la. Us mortals talk cock something la brah. hehehe.
Tadalo!
Entry mangi nih agak 'berlapik' ni.. Kadangkala, yang menghadapi masalah tu adalah orang yang bertanya itu sendiri.. Cuma dia lebih mudah pakai 'kata ganti nama ketiga' berbanding 'kata ganti nama pertama'.
Just an assumption.. Not necessarily true..
okay be prepared. this gonna be harsh.
"the guy needs his freedom"?
"he feels like going solo"?
"he have some doubt"?
these clearly shows that he needs this HUGE space.
to be honest, i dont think this guy, wants her.
yeah.. maybe he wants her.
but TRULY wants her, NO.
"he doesnt approach anybody because he love her"?
so he just dont wanna feel lonely.
so whenever he feels at his worst, he got his human punch bag.
"he felt guilty"?
i hate this shit. nuff said.
"he cant make up his mind because he got some other commitment - work"?
believe me or not. hes NOT matured enuff to even divide his attention to what he called priorities.
trust me.
"age is a problem"?
i got a fucking sickening lovers back home.
and they are like 6 years of age gap. my parents ^-^
and this is not a deep shit. he needs to grow up.
mangi do me a favor. send my note to him:
listen guy, if you want her, u'd want her. okay?
because for everything you want in this world. you must fight for it. got it?
p.s. i know i wont be dating this guy. BAH!
Assalamu3alaykum :),
Anyway this is my 'IMHO'...
It's not a multiple problems but it's only a problem. The thing is, how much risks that he dare to take??
It's matter of decision which implies the consequences from the risk taken. If he dare to take more risk, he should know how to work this out by choosing the most important thing that he felt so. If he is not, then play safe, even if there will be time incurred, as long as he knew it's worth it, and just wait. By the way, if he really thinks that his so-called commitment (work) is much important ( I am assuming that this guy is working odd hours and far away from the loved ones), perhaps both should find the best way to stay closer (i.e., the girl should relocate closer to him)and the best thing is they should get married because such decision will give more insight to themselves of what they should be doing (at this point, their love will be put to the test). Believe me, even if the guy has to change his job for sake of his relationship (that now turned into obligatory marriage), he and his spouse will stay under the blessing of Allah, because marriage is a good deed and also prevent ma3siat. InsyaAllah, he could even get a better job and lead a happier life afterwards with beautiful children.
And one more thing, he should seek what he want in his life .... and stop being self-centred where he yields all the benefits ... maybe a little sacrifice will give happiness to everyone ...
Finally, as a Muslim, we should try to lead our life to please Allah (remember his reward for Jannah in hereafter day) and never forget to ask from Him for everything that we want.
Salam
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